10 September, 2022 - 

Boost your emotional intelligence: the 3C’s

Emotional Intelligence is your ability to recognize your emotions, recognize the emotions of others, and use this awareness to adapt your behavior and build sustainable relationships and friendships. It’s also one of the defining characteristics of success in the workplace. To train your emotional intelligence you need quiet moments for reflection. You need to become still inside. To become still inside you can train your mind, breathe correctly, reconnect with( your) nature, eat healthy and you can learn to relax.

Emotional intelligence is an essential pillar on the human side of your personal and professional life. You will become more aware of how emotions impact your work and your life and how to (re-)act in challenging situations. Emotional intelligence is also about our emotional well-being at work and with friends and family. Emotional intelligence skills are critical for ambitious professionals to master. When you develop your emotional intelligence you will boost your professional influence and you will live and work happy and healthy.

There is a whole set of emotional intelligence skills such as empathy, resilience, focus, mindfulness, confidence, courage, happiness, compassion, connectedness, and consciousness. To kick start developing your emotional intelligence begin with your consciousness, compassion and your ability to create connections, including with yourself; the 3Cs.

The 3C’s


I personally like this word better than the  word Mindfulness. Mindfulness or Consciousness is being aware in the present moment with a calm, focused and clear mind. Consciousness has a positive impact on your physiology, psychology and on your work  performance. If you are fully present in the moment you can focus and concentrate and you are aware of yourself and the people around you. Problems encountered  when not in the present moment include distraction, irritation, overwhelming, endless mental noise, wanders and worries, stress, mistakes at work, difficulties to listen to others.


Compassion is the ability to put oneself  in another’s shoes and in doing so better understand their challenges and how to help them best. Self-Compassion is the ability to put yourself in your own shoes and in doing so better understand your challenges and how to best help yourself. (Self-)Compassion is the intent to contribute to the happiness and well-being  of yourself and others. If you are compassionate you are kind, generous and considerate which has a positive effect on your well-being, your awareness, happiness and resilience. Problems encountered when you are not compassionate can include feelings of loneliness or unhappiness and missing opportunities to help yourself and others.


Connectedness is the ability to create meaningful connections, including with ourselves. Most probably this is the most important human-skill to thrive in 21st-century. To create meaningful connections we need to silence our inner voice. If you are able to create a meaningful connection with yourself and with others then you are a good listener and you are attentive which has a positive effect on your self-esteem, happiness and your immune-system. Lack of social connection is a greater detriment to health than obesity, smoking and high blood pressure.

The 3C’s are the three basic human skills we all should develop first on our journey’s to humanize business, science and society, as seen by Ingrid Valks, initiator the power of time off. The power of time off is an initiative for well-being and personal growth. Interventions we provide include (business) retreats, e-vitality courses and the personal growth leadership awareness program BeyondU.


Article by Ingrid Valks
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